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Know Your Limits…

Know Your Limits…

By on Oct 4, 2012 in Choice, Performance | 0 comments

Just that statement set many of those positive thinking individuals on edge. I know…I am one of those people who doesn’t always like to recognize limitations. “What are you talking about I have no limits. What my mind can conceive I can achieve!” Take a breath…this is not a doom and gloom message…I‘ll leave those to the various media outlets, and it is not a self defeatist/limiting statement. What it does recognize is sometimes I get tired. Sometimes I need to rest. Many things I can do, but just because I can doesn’t mean I should. Personally I tend to work on big projects and move towards big goals. I push myself harder and demand more from myself than probably anyone else in my life expects from me. I believe that if I ask better questions I will get better answers. I fully expect success and don’t cringe at hard stuff. Yet, I have to recognize that as much as I would like to ignore it, sometimes I have to stop and that the choice to do so actually indicates wisdom. Pushing past the fuel light on your dashboard is possible. Yet what takes more time refueling or sitting on the side of the road for assistance and gas.   Share this:ShareFacebookLinkedInPinterestTwitterEmailGoogleLike this:Like...

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A Measure for Life

A Measure for Life

By on Sep 27, 2012 in Performance | 0 comments

I hit the ground running this year, yet I am ever so much more sensitive to keeping balance in my life. I have really had to reflect on what my priorities are and how I want my life to reflect those. With increased opportunities for growth and success, there are increased opportunities to fall off the wagon and go spirally down the “if I could only go faster I could do it all” path. I have realized recently that the reason many people don’t recognize the first step out of balance is because you can’t live by a measure you don’t have. You can not recognize that your priorities are blurring if you have never fully identified what your real priorities are. Priorities have to do with the things you most value, not the most recent crises you think you must solve. Pretend for a few moments that there are no fires to put out. Take a few minutes, and make a list of the relationships and people that are most important to you. Write down the activities that most energize you and give you the most joy. How do you feel about the quality of your life? Are you able to operate at a maximized physical condition for yourself, and if not, why? Making life changes is not about getting it All right. This road involves opportunities. You will fall. To believe you won’t is unrealistic. However, babies don’t quit walking the first time they fall, they just have to keep getting up until they get it right. Are you living life or is life living you? Do you spend a lot of time running from one fire to the next, so busy taking care of “have to” that you don’t remember what a “want to” looks like? Find out what the measure for your life is. Find out the things that you would die for and then live for them.   Share this:ShareFacebookLinkedInPinterestTwitterEmailGoogleLike this:Like...

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Setting Yourself Up to Win…

Setting Yourself Up to Win…

By on Sep 20, 2012 in Performance | 0 comments

I often tell people…If I don’t set myself up to win…who will? So here are a few simple steps for steadiness I give to my clients. 1. STOP AND BREATHE…Sounds simple doesn’t it? However, often people will just run faster and try harder. Others will shut down altogether. Neither response produces results over the course of time. A couple of years I was dealing with a lot of stuff in my own life at one time…people would ask, “How are you doing?” Take a couple deep breathes and exhale “Good start.” And…Actually it is…taking 3 deep breathes and exhaling slowly each time causes a different part of your nervous system to kick in. You start to relax, and when you relax you can make better choices. 2. EXERCISE…I know… “I barely have time to work that into my schedule when life is wonderful…and you want me to exercise NOW?” “Yes I do!” Exercise releases endorphins…endorphins make you feel better without a prescription. Ride a bike, walk, dance…do something you love…but do something (Alcohol and other substances to “feel good” don’t count.) 3. BUILD JOY… Yes, Joy is a real thing and provides strength to deal with the hard stuff! It’s context is the relationships of life. Be thankful and be present with those you care about. Don’t forget to hold hands with someone you love…look them in the face and TELL THEM THAT. Tell them that you love them…Build Joy.   Share this:ShareFacebookLinkedInPinterestTwitterEmailGoogleLike this:Like...

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Out of Focus? A new perspective…

Out of Focus? A new perspective…

By on Sep 13, 2012 in featured, Perspective | 0 comments

It wasn’t until sometime during the 1300’s that some artists began representing the world 3 dimensionally in their work. Prior artworks were 2 dimensional or “flat.” Mathematical concepts inspired the “vanishing point”, a technique that created perspective. It took artists thousands of years to do what children today begin learning in elementary school art class. Around this same time period, spurred on by the adventures of Marco Polo, men began to consider that the world might be other than they had imagined. Christopher Columbus, through his exploration of the New World proved that our world was, in fact, not flat either. Life would never be the same as man’s consciousness embraced new dimensions. Several hundred years later, man again would move into the unknown and impossible. This time, concepts initiated by science fiction writers such as Jules Verne with their voyages to the bottom of the sea, outer space and time travel would be incorporated into investigative procedures. These would allow man to not only travel to great depths and heights, but to actually work for extended time periods in environments that would further a multitude of industries. It is said, “What the mind can conceive and believe… man can achieve.” Yet do you ever feel like your life is flat? Perspective can be defined as a view of things or facts in which they are in right relation. When you look around, do you ever feel that your life may be slightly out of focus? Do you ever wonder if there could be more beyond your current experience? Are there things that you have only dreamt of, but have not really considered possible? Changing your perspective is changing the way you view things. New dimensions that can only be imagined are simply over the horizon if you can only get past the gatekeepers of “shouldn’t” and “couldn’t”. Begin to add richness and increased depth to your life by identifying priorities, and incorporating goals and an action plan.   Then with accountability relationships, regularly reexamine those projections and make adjustments as necessary to keep your course to a new world.   Share this:ShareFacebookLinkedInPinterestTwitterEmailGoogleLike this:Like...

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The Great Equalizer…

The Great Equalizer…

By on Jul 12, 2012 in Choice, Perspective | 0 comments

•What resource do you have in common with the wealthiest person on the planet? •What quality do you share with the fastest runner in the world? •What gift do you possess that every successful artist requires? TIME At my High school reunion a wise friend said to me “20 years equalizes many things.” Every day the clock strikes Midnight, and a new day begins. Each person has the next 24 hours to call today, that won’t change. The way we spend those hours and minutes is what separates us from each other. No matter how we try, the day is the day. Time cannot be saved for tomorrow, it cannot be traded among friends, and once it is gone, it is gone! Ask yourself “At the end of the day, will I be frustrated with the way I spent my day, or will I be satisfied that it was a day well spent?” Some people believe you only need to go faster to make “it” happen. They’re wrong. Fractured families, stress induced disease, and mental breakdowns, are at the end of that road. What can we do? Take it one action step at a time. First identify priorities, and then focus your goals to reflect those priorities. If this is done on a regular basis, when you ask yourself “was today a good day?” you will have a measuring stick. Remember Bill Gates, Gandhi, and Mother Teresa, have accomplished great things, with the same 24 hours that you and I have.   Share this:ShareFacebookLinkedInPinterestTwitterEmailGoogleLike this:Like...

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I made it through…

By on Jan 1, 2012 in Change, Performance | 0 comments

2011 was a year of challenges. There were many times I wondered how I would ever navigate this course.  “No one comes out of the fire swamp alive.”  But through God’s grace and the support of the wonderful people, friends and family, I have in my life…I am blessed to close out 2011 positioned to move into a really new year. Through our BarCamp Sarasota community we are issuing a challenge for those of us who have come through and are expecting to Achieve the Incredible  in 2012. If that’s you…join is a declaring that this year I will make “IT” happen. Share this:ShareFacebookLinkedInPinterestTwitterEmailGoogleLike this:Like...

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